The loss of a relationship can be very painful. This is because of all the hurt that is being triggered. Letting go of a relationship allows you to heal this hurt and restore your peace of mind. You can then get on with your life and you can do it with love. If you are unable let go, the hurt turns into pain and stays. It forces destructive behavior and sabotages your future relationships. In an automatic, subconscious attempt to avoid feeling this hurt, you become more likely to push love away. Letting go of a relationship is extremely important. Fortunately, the process for letting go of a relationship is relatively easy.
What is letting go?
Letting go of a relationship is a state of mind and is totally separate from your actions. It is the inner technique that removes the fear, upset and tunnel vision that sabotages your life. It restores both your peace of mind and allows you to get on with your life. Letting go of a relationship is giving the other person permission to leave. There are several steps to letting go of a relationship. One is to trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. The other is to feel you hurt willingly like a child. Let the hurt come and let it go. Learn more about letting go
Trust that you will be okay
The first step in letting go of a relationship is to trust. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. When you know that you will be okay no matter what happens, letting go of a relationship becomes relatively easy. Ultimately, trust is something that you create. It is a stand and a declaration. “I will be okay just because I say so.” The more you trust, the more everything works out okay and the more you trust. Trust is also telling the truth. You have had difficult times in your past and you have made it through every one of them. You will get through this time too. Difficult times are brought to us for our healing and our growth. So trust. Trust that you will be okay no matter what happens. Trust is an important part of letting go of a relationship.
Feel your hurt willingly like a child
The second step to letting go of a relationship is to feel your hurt willingly like a child. When we get hurt, there are all sorts of chemical reactions that go on inside of us. These chemical reactions become a negative emotion that the body naturally wants to purge. To see how this works, look at little children. Little children are masters at releasing negative emotion. They cry and they cry. When they get through crying, the hurt is all gone. They are able to release their emotion quickly because they feel their hurt willingly. This is the key to releasing negative emotion. It is also the key to letting go of a relationship. To be free of the hurt, take your focus off of your circumstances and focus on the hurt that is being triggered. Then dive into this hurt. Feel it willingly like a child. Feel it deliberately and purposefully. Feel it because you want to. Feel it because you want to reach in, grab it, and pull it out. As you do this, the hurt loses power and letting go of a relationship becomes much easier. Learn more about healing hurt
Find the deeper hurt that is being triggered
Ultimately, if letting go of a relationship is difficult, there is a nerve that is being triggered. This nerve is the childhood hurt of feeling worthless, not worth loving, not good enough, or some other form of feeling not okay. It’s not the truth that you are this way. It’s just a suppressed childhood hurt from your past. It’s the automatic, subconscious, avoidance of this hurt that sabotages our lives. On the surface we are fighting the loss of a relationship, but at a deeper level, we are not resisting the circumstances. We are resisting the deeper hurt that is being triggered. The key to letting go of a relationship is to find and heal this deeper hurt. Bill Ferguson can show you how.
Letting go of a relationship
When you have a loss of a relationship, letting go of a relationship is extremely important. This page explains some of the elements of letting go. To be most effective in letting go of a relationship, attend our programs and schedule an appointment with Bill Ferguson. He can walk you through the process of restoring your inner peace and getting on with your life. Our most important program is a life changing weekend workshop called Return To The Heart. We also have a bookstore, a Mastery of Life Audio Course and a free Mastery of Life E-Course. Our workshops are in Houston, TX. Individual support is available in person and by telephone.
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As a former divorce attorney, Bill Ferguson gained national attention for his ability to heal relationships. 15% of his clients never divorced and the ones who did were able to part as friends.
The Texas Counseling Association thinks so highly of his work, they asked him to deliver the keynote address at their annual convention. He taught his approach to over 2,300 counselors and therapists. He has led over 2,000 workshops and has worked with thousands of individuals. Learn more about Bill